—Lan uneasy about Edeyn's control (New Spring, Chapter 22)
The traditions of Malkier involve a man sitting at the feet of his carneira, meaning "first lover," to weave a cord-like braid of his own hair called a daori. She cuts his hair off at shoulder length after their first night together and the braid is kept by the carneira. She will present the daori to the man's bride on his wedding day. Custom dictates that while a man holds his daori, his will is at the whim of his carneira.